‘If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’ – Wayne Dyer
Have you noticed that when you need to or want to make important changes in your life, there’s usually a ‘dip’ in momentum and motivation?
I know this ‘dip’ very well. It happens all the time when I’m seeking to transform aspects of my life. Change takes a lot of effort, focus, determination and pure grit!!!! It’s not easy, but it can be simpler to do.
Here’s my response to a dear client who reached out to me as he’s seeking to take charge to align his world more closely with his core values, and make monumental changes to how he manages his business and life:
‘James, this is NORMAL when you’re seeking to transform the way you operate in the world. You’re going through ‘the dark night of the soul’ – where your ‘old self’ goes into battle with your ‘emerging self’ as he doesn’t want to give up his position (ego/control). It’s all good….even though it doesn’t feel that way! This is a pivot point – real change only happens when we’re forced to make it. Open your mind, your heart and your arms. Bring it on!
Keep the longer term picture firmly in view – this short term pain is simply part of the deal. Suck it up but take good care of yourself. You need to be eating well, exercising for at least 20mins every day and getting some sunshine on your skin for 10mins – even if it’s just walking along the boardwalk with your sleeves rolled up during the day. Just do it. Good sleep is vital too.
Make sure you are audio recording instructions for your team so you start to build a resource of orientation and upskilling instructions.
Keep pushing back and hold true to your position. Remember your ‘bubble’ and the ‘invisible line’. You are only responsible for ‘your side’ and how you feel, think and behave.
Your staff member is only wanting what she is entitled to and what’s fair. She’s just trying to put food on her own table and look after herself. Again, that’s just what people have to sensibly do. It’s not personal.
Breathe! You’re doing well!!!!! You want to win the challenge… It’s a marathon, not a sprint. You got this.
Remember to look up, smile and count the many blessings in your life. You have much to be grateful for. Always keep your mind and heart open, JT”
I hope by sharing this, it helps YOU or someone you know in some small way.
What do you do to help you out if the ‘dip’ of change? I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas. Please share them with me below. And share this post with others who could be having a hard time right now.
Sending a big warm hug to you. Remember, you are never alone and there are people all around who care. I do!
I know that it’s hard to believe but Christmas is not too far away! Below is a special gift pack I have created called ‘I Care. You Matter.’
It is a great way to show someone that they do matter in your life so why not give them a little inspiration around Christmas time and remind them how much they mean to you.
Listen to what the I Care. You Matter gift pack is all about, and what’s included below.
P.P.S YOU CAN change the way you think.
You CAN change the way you think, and gradually and sustainably master a new way to be and live.
And that’s exactly why Dr Jeffrey M. Schwartz and I created a highly effective self paced on-line program based on his best selling book: You Are Not Your Brain webinar series.
If you are grappling with navigating change, know that you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and get our lives well and truly on track.
This is precisely why we built the You Are Not Your Brain online course which is filled with practical neuroscience and time-tested steps on how to support you to manage change more effectively and adaptively.
This is not an online ebook that you can read and forget about. It’s a revolutionary, self-paced online course and community with 8 video lessons, and many time-tested brain-based strategies and techniques that will teach you step by step, scientifically proven methods for changing bad habits, ending unhealthy thinking, and take back control of your life and happiness. These are the exact proven strategies and techniques I have used in my coaching practice to help thousands of people over the past two decades.
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