“Nothing Is Easy To The Unwilling” – Thomas Fuller
No one could ever say that life is easy. The human journey is fraught with challenges, pain and distress. At the same time, there is more guidance available now than ever before about how to manage our life journeys so we can move through the obstacles with increasing ease and revel in the abundant delights here to be savoured. Are you willing to open to this possibility?
When our lives are dominated by pain, suffering, addictions, fears, anger, co-dependency, martyrdom, victimhood, depression, etc., we are unconsciously caught up in our stories. We react to events, to other people and to our own thoughts and moods according to old self sabotaging and limited patterns of thinking and behaviour. Life seems like a downward spiral and the light of hope gets dimmer.
This way of living is not wrong or bad. If this is your experience at present, please let go of the tendency to judge yourself, feel guilty or ashamed and beat yourself up. It simply is what it is. There’s no question that it may be painful, and if you’ve had enough of the pain or suffering, I can assure you that you do have options.
In fact, if you’re reading this article now, take heart that you are ready for something new and much better!
If we are willing to be curious and take responsibility for our own experience, to begin to stop blaming others or ourselves, and/or to fall back on excuses, we can begin to affect a shift. If we are willing to look objectively at our own behaviour – to examine our thoughts and our feelings and ourselves, we can gain the power to make new choices. For example, if I catch myself blaming someone, I can choose to stop that line of thinking and instead consider how I can do something constructive to make a difference for myself.
It’s this step by step opening, through enhanced awareness and mindfulness, that lifts us out of unconscious reactions and ruts and sets us firmly on empowering new paths. Bring it on I say!
As the saying goes: success builds success. When we commit to create change by being willing to learn some new skills, we reap the rewards. These positive outcomes generate momentum that makes it that much easier to take another new step. There is hope. We notice our attitudes becoming more optimistic and we can sense new strength in our character – inside of ourselves! Life takes on a new sense of experience and adventure. Your light begins to shine.
The keys to successful and abundant living lie in self-awareness so we can see the old story and consciously choose another. If you are ready for something better, then tap into sources of inspiration. Explore tools and techniques to support you in building the self-awareness and self-acceptance (and eventually self-love) that will bring your desires to you.